Overcoming Regrets, Disappointments and Mistakes

Everyone has that one thing about their past they could never bring themselves to tell anyone. It’s that one thing you don’t know if you could ever forgive yourself for, Just thinking about it makes you feel uncomfortable and you seek escape in a different task or a sudden urgent thought.

      A place of peace exists for you, but only if you’re brave enough to cross the bridge you can never seem to bring yourself to approach.
1. Identify and address your weaknesses.
 Accept that everyone makes mistakes and then focus on what we can do differently going forward. The rewards of learning to conquer that fear in the present far outweigh the pain of having given into it in the past.
2. Use your mistake as a teaching tool.
If you forgive yourself and bounce right back, you empower people to respond the same way. Think of it as helping everyone around you.
3. Use the opportunity to become better at adapting.
Act as if; pretend as if this burden in your mind never existed, Imagine if you never made that mistake, it won’t happen in the future and all is well. Repeat this every day until it becomes a new habit. Any time we practice adapting, we create the possibility of happiness that doesn’t depend on perfect conditions.
4. Strengthen your ability to focus on things you can control
This is an invaluable skill because it empowers us to take positive action instead of falling into a shame cycle.
5. Embrace impermanence.
Everything in life is impermanent. While I’m not thrilled when my actions end a relationship or good situation, this reminds me to appreciate everyone and everything in the moment. There are no guarantees in life—even if I make very few mistakes.
6. Evaluate your relationships.
Think of this as your ‘it’s a wonderful life moment '. You have to do some major life restructuring to rebound from whatever you just experienced. Are your friends there for you, offering forgiveness and support—even if it takes them a little time to get there? If not, this may be a perfect time to remove unhealthy relationships from your life. This may also give you a chance to strengthen your relationships. We’re all human, and nothing brings us together like acknowledging our universal struggles.
7. Get better at accepting blame.
Take responsibility. It’s a risk to admit the blame . Still, there’s something empowering about saying, “I screwed up, and I accept the consequences.”
8. Challenge your thinking.
 If your mistake propels you toward a better future, then it’s actually a blessing in disguise. I realize mistakes oftentimes present challenges, but ultimately, you can only move forward if you find opportunities in your reality, whatever that may be.              
Regret seems 'a must happen' sometimes. But there’s nothing compelling us to dwell on the way things could have been. The only thing that keeps us stuck in lost possibilities is the refusal to focus on new ones.

     Don't regret over what never came to be but use your energy to create what can be.